Tantra first teaches how to move in sex, how to know it, how to feel it, how to come to the deepest
possibility hidden in it, to the climax, how to find the essential beauty, the essential happiness and bliss that is hidden there.
Once you know that secret you can transcend it because, really, in a deep sexual orgasm it is not sex which gives you bliss, it is something else. Sex is just a situation. Something else is giving you the euphoria, the ecstasy. That something else can be divided into three elements. But when I speak about those elements, do not think that you can understand them just from my words. They must become part of your experience. As concepts they are useless. Because of three basic elements in sex you come to a blissful moment.
Those three are:
You transcend time completely. There is no time. You forget time completely; time ceases for you. Not that time ceases, it ceases for YOU; you are not in it. There is no past, no future. In this very moment, here and now, the whole existence is concentrated. This moment becomes the only real moment. If you can make this moment the only real moment without sex, then there is no need of sex. Through meditation it happens.
In sex for the first time you lose your ego. So all those who are very much egoistic, they are all always against sex, because in sex they have to lose their egos. You are not, nor is there the other. You and your beloved are both lost into something else. A new reality evolves, a new unit comes into existence in which the old two are lost - completely lost. The ego is afraid. You are no more there. If without sex you can come to a moment when you are not, then there is no need of it.
In sex you are natural for the first time. The unreal is lost, the faces, the facades are lost; the society, the culture, the civilization, is lost. You are a part of nature. As trees are, as animals are, as stars are, you are a part of nature. You are in a greater something - the cosmos, the Tao. You are floating in it. You cannot even swim in it; YOU are not. You are just floating - being taken by the current.
Sex is just a situation in which it happens naturally. Once you know and once you can feel these elements, you can create these elements
independently of sex. All meditation is essentially the experience of sex without sex, but you have to go through it. It must become part of
your experience, not just be there as concepts, ideas, thoughts.
Tantra is not for sex, tantra is to transcend. But you can transcend only through experience - existential experience - not through ideology. Only through tantra does Brahmacharya happen. This looks paradoxical, but it is not. Only through knowledge does transcendence happen. Ignorance cannot help you towards transcendence; it can only help you towards hypocrisy.
People feel bored with their wives and with their husbands. The reason is they have not been able to
contact the other′s real soul. They have been able to contact the body - but they have missed the contact that happens heart-to-heart,
center-to-center, soul-to-soul. Once you know how to contact soul-to-soul - when you have become soul-mates - then there is no boredom at all.
Then there is always something to discover in the other - because each being is an infinity, and each being contains God himself; there is
no end to exploring.
That′s why I say that Tantra should become a compulsory phenomenon for all human beings. Each school, each college, each university, should teach Tantra. Tantra is the science of contacting souls, of going to the deepest core of the other. Only in a world which knows the art of Tantra will this boredom disappear, otherwise it cannot disappear. You can tolerate it, you can suffer it, you can be a martyr to it. That′s how people have been in the past - martyrs. They say, "What to do? this is fate. This life is finished. Next life we will choose some other woman or some other man, but this life is gone, and nothing can be done. And the children are there, and thousand and one problems"... and the prestige and the society and the respectability. So they have suffered and they have remained martyrs.
Now they are no longer ready to suffer, so they have moved to the other extreme: now they are indulging in all kinds of sex, but that too is not giving any contentment.
Neither the Indian is contented nor is the American. Nobody is contented, because the basic thing is missed by both. The basic thing is: unless you become capable of decoding the inner mystery of your woman or your man, you will sooner or later get fed up, bored. Then either you become a martyr - remain with it, suffer it, wait for death to deliver you - or you start indulging with other women. But whatsoever you have done with this woman will be done with the other, and you will get fed up with the other, and bored with the other, and your whole life will be just changing partners. That is not going to satisfy either.
Tantra is one of the most important secrets ever discovered. But it is very delicate because it is the greatest art. To paint is easy, to
create poetry is easy, but to create a communion with the energy of the other, a dancing communion, is the greatest and the most difficult
art to learn.
People are against me because I am telling people how to love. I am telling people how to make love a prayer, I am telling people how to love so deeply that love itself becomes your religion... that your woman one day disappears and you find God there, that your man one day disappears and you find God there; that one day, in deep communion, in deep orgasmic experience, in that ecstasy, for a moment you both disappear and there is only God and nothing else.
You have been taught down the ages to be against sex, and that has made you very sexual. Now this paradox has to be understood. If you want to understand me, this paradox has to be understood very, very deeply, clearly: you have been made sexual by all the condemnation of sex... that′s what has happened to the whole humanity: repressed sex has become the obsession.
People think I am teaching sexuality? I am teaching transcendence. Soon this will be the only place where nobody will be obsessed with sex. It is already the experience of hundreds of sannyasins. Every day I receive letters: "What is happening, Osho? My sex is disappearing, I no longer find much interest in it" - men and women both.
That interest is a pathological interest that has been created by repression. Once repression is taken away, that interest will disappear. And then there is a natural feel - which is not obsessive, which is not pathological. And whatsoever is natural is good. This interest in sex is unnatural. And the problem is: this is being created by the priest and by the politician, by the so-called Mahatmas. They are the culprits. And they go on creating it, and they think they are helping humanity to go beyond sex. They are not! They are throwing humanity into this whole mess.
If you understand me rightly, then you will be surprised by the experience that you will go through in this commune. Soon you will find that sex has become a natural phenomenon. And finally, as your meditations will deepen, as you will start meeting with each other′s souls more and more, the body contact will become less and less. A moment comes when there is no need for sexuality to be there. It has taken a new turn; the energy has started moving upwards. It is the same energy - at the lowest rung it is sex, at the highest rung it is samadhi.