Three things...
Two consciousnesses can relate in three
ways.
The first way is the way of I-it. That′s how millions of
people relate: they reduce the other to a thing. Somebody becomes a
husband or a wife; then it is an I-it relationship. Then the other
is not respected as a person but used as a commodity. An I-it
relationship means a relationship of possession; it is the ugliest
relationship. Science functions in the world of I-it, that′s why
science cannot believe that there is a soul, that there is God.
There are only things, matter; it reduces everything to matter. I-it
is the world of the scientist.
The second relationship is of I-thou. That′s how lovers relate. The
other is respected, respected tremendously. The other is not reduced
to a thing, the other is not used; in fact both enhance each other,
both enrich each other.
In the first, the I-it relationship, you take; your whole concern is
how to take more and more. In the second, you give; the whole
concern is how to give more and more. It is not that by giving you
don′t get - you get a thousandfold, but that is a different matter,
that is not your motive.
The second is the world of art; the artist lives in the world of
I-thou. And many religions of the world, particularly religions born
out of Judaism - Judaism, Christianity, Mohammedanism - have not
gone beyond I-thou. Hence they have not been able to develop
meditation - only prayer. Prayer is an I-thou relationship; god is
the other. Great respect is there, but still the other is the other;
there is a separation. There is closeness, but not bridged yet -
very close, intimate, but not one yet.
The third relationship is really not a relationship at all. It is
very paradoxical; it is neither I-it nor I-thou. The two persons
don′t exist in it as two, they start functioning as one. They become
one organic unity, they become one orgasmic joy. That′s the state
the mystic lives in, and that is the state the meditator tries to
attain.
All of my mediums have to attain to the third. With me you have to
be in a relationship which is not a relationship at all. So if I put
my hand on your head, it is not somebody else′s hand, it is your own
hand. And when I put my head on your head it is not somebody else′s
head, it is your own head. That feel has to grow. As it grows, you
will become more and more open vehicles for my energy. That has to
be remembered, then your being mediums will become your great
meditation. It will not only be helpful to the guest, to the person
who has come for the close-up; it will be a tremendous upsurge in
your being too.
This is the beginning of a new phase of work. I
will relate many more things to you - many more that you cannot
imagine, many more that you have never dreamt about - but the first
basic you have to learn before that can be conveyed to you is: let
this relationship with me be absolutely exclusive. This has not to
become your gossipping.
The temptation will be there, because when you know something and
somebody else does not know about it, there is great temptation to
play the role of the knower, and to say it. It is a human
temptation. But this has to be remembered, that whatsoever
transpires between me and you is an absolute secret.
And remember, it is not the matter that is important; the matter may
not be important at all. It is your capacity to keep it secret that
is important. I may have simply told you that two plus two are four
- that is not the point. It is immaterial whether you convey it to
somebody or not; that is not the question. The content is not the
question, the question is: your capacity of keeping it absolutely to
yourself, your not revealing it even to your own spouse, your
friend, your lover.
There is an ancient Sufi story....
A man who was a great seeker heard of a mystic who had attained to
the ultimate secret But he lived far away in the dark desert and
nobody knew the way to him - he hid himself. The man tried: he sold
everything that he had, he renounced his family. It took him three
years to find the old master. He was utterly happy when he touched
the feet of the master, and he said ′So I have come. Now reveal the
secret to me.′
The master said ′If you want the secret, then you will have to pay
for it.′ He said ′I have nothing left. I have already paid.′ The
master said ′No. That is not the question. You have to just be here
for three years, utterly silent; not a single word has to be
uttered. That will be the payment, and then I will reveal the secret
to you.′
The three years were long, living in that desert - nobody else there
but the master and the disciple, and the disciple was not allowed to
utter a single word. It was really hard; he was going crazy inside,
but he waited and waited. Three years passed, and he said to the
master ′Now three years have passed: reveal the secret to me.′ The
master said ′Now the condition. You have paid, true, but now the
condition: you have not to reveal this secret to anybody else, it
has to be kept absolutely secret.′ He said ′Agreed - but reveal it
to me.′
The master started laughing. He said ′How can I reveal it to you? If
you can keep it secret, why can I not keep it secret? In fact my
master told me the same thing: "Keep it secret - don′t reveal it to
anybody" - and I don′t know what his master said to him. Whether
there is any secret or not, that is not the point at all!′
So that is not the point - the content, or any secret - but your
capacity to contain it. That you have to remember. If any of you
starts gossipping, it is bound to reach me, remember: gossip has
wings! And those who do that will automatically be dropped, slowly
slowly. The higher work is not for them; they are childish.
Vivek will be your chief, so you have to listen
to her, to whatsoever instructions she gives to you. I have been
working on her for seven years; now she is ready.
So you have to surrender to her, you have to listen to her;
whatsoever information she conveys to you, you have to follow.
And I am in search of creating a big group of mediums, because as
the commune grows I will need much bigger groups of mediums to help
people. Thousands are going to come, and they are going to come so
fast that you will not be able to manage them!
So remember these three things.